Recently I was interviewed for a story on a local news report, the story was focused on how difficult it’s becoming to get admitted to our top State Flagship Universities. Prior to the interview, the reporter and I spoke a few times to discuss content and make a plan. The story had two main angles; trends in college admissions (difficulty) and the growing profession of Private College Counseling (guidance through high school). As we prepared and during the recorded interview, I realized something, so many students are regretful of choices they made throughout high school or lack of choices made, and that in our “get it now”, “ship it in one click”, “helicopter parent – fix it quick” society, everyone wants a FIXER.
This is the actual term the reporter used to describe my profession. LOL. I felt like I was in a Godfather movie.
Here’s what I realized & I hope you’ll learn from my “a-ha” moment…
Allow your student to fail early, young, like Elementary & Middle School age and LEARN from it. Use it as a teachable moment (s). Don’t fix it (yes I said that)! Challenge them academically early, so they learn how to fail, how to study and to GROW as a student and a person. I know, you’re a parent reading this and you’re cringing (I would have also, ten years ago).
IMPORTANT FACT, nothing a student does or doesn’t do letter/number grade-wise up until 8th grade matters for college admissions unless taking high school courses in middle school.
So, what does this all have to do with me, as a “fixer”? There’s only so much I can “fix” by the time a student gets to me in 11th or 12th grade. So, words of advice, start getting guidance early. Second, start allowing your student/son/daughter to fail (not literally an “F”) early to learn how to succeed and encourage them that they CAN do it; to try AGAIN. If these two are combined, I’m quite confident, by the time I sit across from you/your student, that there will be a LOT less to “fix“.